Relations with a young man are built on sex – I agreed to it myself, since I feel strong feelings for him. This is my first relationship experience. Probably, he is unlikely to love me, but today a woman can also enjoy sex without obligation! And yet I want him to love me – what to do for this? I try not to become attached to him, because I understand that this relationship needs to be completed. For some reason, only women think about the consequences! I hide this in every way and pretend that I don’t care. I really need your help, because usually society is divided into two camps: some call to have sex only for the sake of enjoyment, and for others sex without obligations is immoral. A friend says that you need to love some, have sex with others, and dream of third. But holding such views is easier
for a man. I will be grateful for the advice.
Zhanna, I carefully re -read your letter several times. What is your position? What would you like? You give other people’s opinions and discussions about the role of women, but you act chaotic, and your actions are contradictory. What advice do you want to get?
You have entered into sexual relations, knowing that a man does not love you, and found arguments in favor of such a union. You want him to love you, but at the same time hiding your feelings, showing interest only in sex. That he might think about you in this case? Why did you choose such a tactic? Why decided that society is divided into two camps? There are many opinions, everyone can come up with anything.
Throughout our lives, we accumulate our own experience, which is formed on the basis of personal knowledge, observations, analysis of fiction, conversations with a psychotherapist about the deep causes of actions. General rules do not exist, the life of each is based on his elections, feelings, family traditions, and national characteristics. Beware of those who know exactly how to live and what to do. There are no recipes for happiness.
The choice of a loved one is a long, interesting and unpredictable search, which is impossible without trials and errors, joy and pain. Look at the prevailing married couples, get acquainted with people who managed to find their happiness, study their experience. Yes, and everyone has their own happiness. You can create your own rules.
